I like to think of people and the way they work as puzzles. We go trough life picking up different pieces and try to get them to fit with the rest of our picture. Sometimes we don’t get it quite right. Mashing pieces together in a way they are not suppose to fit. As time goes on though we slowly complete more of the puzzle.
Then two people meet. You might look at the other person and believe they are stupid or horrible because they don’t have some of the puzzle pieces you feel are most important. From the other side they are looking at you in the same way. They also have pieces they feel are important that you don’t have.
We all know of this relationship starts. You clash on every point and don’t get along. What’s interesting though is how this relationship ends. As time goes on you see the pieces you are missing in the other person. You might not understand them at first and they sit waiting to be added to you puzzle or be discarded.
Then life happens as it tends to and you see the importance of the new pieces. Suddenly you have completed another section of the puzzle.
The most interesting thing about this process is how you add importance to these new sections.
Your new friend might have a section that’s picture shows you should never share too much of what you have. This might be because this person was taken advantage once so this became a important part of their personality.
On the other hand you might organise the pieces differently as you place them. That you should still share what you have but be on the look out for people who will take advantage of that. This might be because you where once in a position where you needed someone to share with you but know-body did because there was no trust.
Both of you have made different but completely logical decisions. From the position you are both at not one of you can be said to be smarter than the other. Now together if you have to share out sweets you will do a much better job. Complimenting each-other in every-way you clash.
I love this tool for thinking about people. It’s also fun to think about the puzzle itself. The puzzle is best thought of as every possible experience. It would be impossible to have every piece and the pieces you do have affect the way you see the other pieces. Giving everyone a different personality.
A picture of a animal graveyard is a sad image untill you place it next to a picture of Seeing Eye Dog Training Centre.
What excites me is what picture I will have in the end. The moment of my death becoming the moment I can see the most of the picture to try and understand it.